My Experiences After Having Suffered a TBI

In October 2012, I incurred a traumatic brain injury after having spun out backwards into an oncoming pickup truck.  I do not remember much about the accident itself but; I do remember waking up daily in a hospital bed months after the event, not knowing how, exactly I got there but understanding that I had been involved in some sort of serious car wreck.

Ever since then my life has changed quite dramatically.  It has been very nearly nonstop recovery-focused.  I have gone through extensive physical, occupational and, speech therapy.  While the brain injury was the most life-threatening one I received, it was not the most debilitating.  That injury was the one to my legs (in particular the left leg).  While I had once been an extraordinarily active person running cross country and track & field in school as well as even biking quite regularly as an adult (even to/from work), I can no longer engage in such pursuits and am restricted to a wheelchair due to those aforementioned injuries.

Socially, I am now estranged from the vast majority of my old friends.  Though I do have new ones as united through our common experience of having suffered brain injuries, I greatly miss my old, more long-time friends as well as the regular social activities I shared with them.  Fortunately, I can still connect with them via online communication but; it’s just not the same.

While I was once working as an educator in the non-profit environment, I found great fulfillment in helping others achieve their dreams as well as helping them make positive impacts for their families.  Now, though, as I can no longer work as easily or readily as I once did, I greatly miss that old vocation of mine.  Nevertheless, I am still thinking of contacting a nearby college or university and seeing if I can work for them as a satellite or distance tutor.  I look forward to the chance to serve others in a similar manner as I once did.

In spite of all of the terrible things that have happened to me after and as a result of that 2012 car wreck, I am still trying to find and ride the silver lining.  I would extraordinarily, greatly appreciate the chance to do so in the company of my newfound friends, though.

– Ryan Quick is active in the TBI survivor community in Indianapolis.

For over 30 years, March has been acknowledged as Brain Injury Awareness Month.  Each year this recognition grows as more and more entities and governments become increasingly aware of the impact brain injuries have on the population.  Well over five million Americans are living with a brain injury and its related disabilities. Increasing awareness can increase resources and improve their way of life.

This year, the Brain Injury Association of America designated this second full week of March to concussion awareness.  By definition (from the CDC), a concussion is:

“a type of traumatic brain injury—or TBI—caused by a bump, blow, or jolt to the head or by a hit to the body that causes the head and brain to move rapidly back and forth. This sudden movement can cause the brain to bounce around or twist in the skull, creating chemical changes in the brain and sometimes stretching and damaging brain cells.”

https://www.cdc.gov/headsup/basics/concussion_whatis.html

Most concussions occur due to a fall.  Increasingly, concussions are being diagnosed in children and teens who play contact sports.

Concussions range from mild to severe, with recovery taking from a few days to months.  For more information about long-term effects of concussions, check out our post on Post-Concussion Syndrome.

Even if someone does not lose consciousness (which occurs in less than 10% of concussions), the injury can be severe enough to warrant a medical visit or at least medical observation.  If a concussion is suspected, a doctor visit should be scheduled within 1-2 days of the injury.  However, if a person exhibits severe symptoms, emergency treatment should be sought.

Some of these severe symptoms include:

• One pupil larger than the other.
• Drowsiness or inability to wake up.
• A headache that gets worse and does not go away.
• Slurred speech, weakness, numbness, or decreased coordination.
• Repeated vomiting or nausea, convulsions or seizures (shaking or twitching).
• Unusual behavior, increased confusion, restlessness, or agitation.
• Loss of consciousness (passed out/knocked out). Even a brief loss of consciousness should be taken seriously.

https://www.cdc.gov/headsup/basics/concussion_danger_signs.html

Many professional sports organizations have strict protocols when they suspect a player has suffered a concussion.  Youth sports often do the same.  It is better to be overly cautious and sit out for a short time than to continue to play and suffer a worse injury.

The mission of the Unmasking Brain Injury project is to promote awareness of the prevalence of brain injury; to give survivors a voice and the means to educate others of what it’s like to live with a brain injury; to show others that people living with a disability due to their brain injury are like anyone else. They are deserving of dignity, respect, compassion and the opportunity to prove their value as citizens in their respective communities.

The Unmasking Brain Injury event happens in March for Brain Injury Awareness Month.  Many states across the nation participate in this event.  Some of our survivors in Indiana, have created two or even three masks throughout the years with our group.  These masks are a visual representation of life before and after a brain injury.  The mask illustrates one side as being life before brain injury and the other side life after the brain injury.

Our group’s masks have been displayed at the IU Neuroscience Center, the Rehabilitation Hospital of Indiana, and even a local art gallery in downtown Indianapolis.

Below are  a couple of the masks our group created. The first mask is from a brother of a survivor, and the second was created by a survivor.

 

 

For more information, please visit www.unmaskingbraininjury.org.

Next month is Brain Injury Awareness Month.  There are numerous facets to be aware of concerning TBIs and TBI survivors.  This week, in preparation for BI awareness month, we’d like to draw attention to just a few of the ways brain injuries have affected the future members of the Villa Licci community.

 

Top 5 Things TBI Survivors Want You to Know

In their own words, several TBI survivors shared what it is they wish other people knew about them and their experiences living with a TBI.

 

Living with a Traumatic Brain Injury

What do the 2% of Americans living with the effects of a brain injury have in common?  This blog explores both individual and community effects that survivors and their loved ones might encounter.

 

Domestic Violence and TBI

Domestic Violence is one of the main causes of TBIS in both adults and children.  From shaken baby syndrome to blows on the head from a beating, domestic violence can lead to serious long-term effects.

 

Post-Concussion Syndrome

What happens when the effects of a “mild” concussion last far beyond the expected recovery period?

 

How to Explain a Brain Injury Disability

When someone experiences a brain injury, many areas of their life can be affected.  One question that often comes up is how to explain the injury and the resulting disabilities to those around them.

There are numerous activities nationwide in honor of Brain Injury Awareness Month.  Check back next month for more information!

February is often referred to as the “month of love.”  Valentine’s Day is marketed as the most romantic day of the year and is also one of the most popular days to get engaged.  Society is inundated with movies about love and commercials about what to buy for the ones you love.

The Hallmark Channel is known for its movies about love and relationship. One movie recently featured a woman who had suffered from a TBI.  Her character was a peripheral one – not one of the leads.  All that was shared of her story was she had an injury that landed her in the hospital with a TBI and then she worked really hard for a couple of years to overcome everything.  Her life had basically returned to “normal” and there wasn’t evidence of any long-term effects of her TBI. She was remarried and co-parenting her daughter with her ex. And everyone lived happily ever after.

However, life is not a Hallmark movie, and many people do suffer from long-term effects of their TBI.  Sometimes these affect their relationships, both platonic and romantic.  Reading many of the survivor stories from individuals associated with Villa Licci, you will discover that all of them had relationships that changed after their TBI.

Some lost romantic partners or spouses, others found friends slowly stopped coming around.  Still more found that the dynamics within their families changed.

A TBI often affects not only physical abilities but also cognitive and emotional ones as well.  The ability to sustain a conversation, to remember important dates and events, to avoid mood swings and angry outbursts are all good characteristics to have to sustain positive and lasting relationships.  Unfortunately, these are often compromised by a TBI and its after-effects.

Loved ones of someone who has suffered a TBI often share how they have to get to know the person again, since much has changed.  They say it seems as if the person they once knew was lost and they don’t know if they’ll ever come back.

The survivor often feels that way, too.  They may remember who they were and struggle to become that person again.  And they have to adapt to the way those in their lives interact with them after their injury.

Unfortunately, some relationships are lost in the months and years following a TBI.

But relationships are not doomed to fail. And the loss is not inevitable. A study in the journal NeuroRehabilitation found that people with a TBI are not at greater risk for divorce relative to the general population.¹ Even though it is hard work to maintain a strong relationship, it can and does happen.

During this month of love, we should all take time to ge grateful for all the relationships in our lives, and to make more effort to nurture those that are struggling.  The community of Villa Licci will be a place of support for survivors to grow in relationship with others and to form new relationships with others in the community.

 

1. Kreutzer, J. S., Marwitz, J. H., Hsu, N., Williams, K., & Riddick, A. (2007). Marital stability after brain injury: An investigation and analysis. NeuroRehabilitation, 22(1), 53-59.

Many times, when focusing on life after a TBI, the discussion and research concentrate on the physical and cognitive effects.  Of late, however, there has been more and more research into the social and emotional effects of a traumatic brain injury.  The results are very eye-opening.

Friends and Family are there in the beginning

In the first weeks after an injury, months and if lucky, year or so, friends and family are consistently reaching out to the families and survivors of Traumatic Brain Injury. They check in with the survivor to see how they are feeling and where they are in their recovery. Some may even offer to take them out to do something that they may have enjoyed in the past.

Most often, these friends and family come to realize that this person may not be the same as they were before their injury, and they slowly move on. Maybe it’s because it’s too difficult for them to face, or maybe it’s just the timing in people’s lives. Nonetheless, the TBI survivor is left without interaction with his/her friends and family who once were there for them.

In addition, some of these people make unkind comments in passing, such as “when will he/she be normal again”, or “just put him/her in a home with people like him/her”.  They have no idea that their words are hurtful, and they may even think they are helping.

But words do hurt, as does the loss of the community the survivor once enjoyed.

What comes next?

And so, the survivor continues attending therapies, working towards that goal of becoming the person they were before their injury. But as time moves on, they realize things will never be as they were.

Slowly, depression creeps in and they become more isolated.

A study out of Harvard showcases the fact that loneliness is more deadly than morbid obesity and other health risks that are more often discussed and showcased. There is a theory – the “RAM Model” – which suggests people who find themselves lonely require cognitive, behavioral, and interpersonal resources. However, many TBI survivors don’t have access to resources like these.

In fact, in many areas they are nonexistent.

What if…

What if there was a place where a survivor could easily find all of these resources?  What if there was a residence for these adults to break out of their loneliness and form community?

It is our hope that Villa Licci would help these individuals to find a place they can call home.  To be around others who are going through the same thing as they are and can be support to each other.   Lessening the feeling of loneliness and isolation so they can improve their overall outlook and mental health.

This past summer, we dropped our son off at summer camp.  What is a typical and recurring experience for many children and their parents was a new experience for our family.  You see, unlike the thousands of children who attend various types of camps each year, our son is an adult. And this was not your run-of-the-mill summer camp.

A special kind of camp

Our son and several of his peers attended a camp designed for individuals living with the effects of a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI).  This camp is offered every summer for one week.  While at this camp, these survivors have the opportunity to experience life as they remember living before their injury. They live as independently as their circumstances allow them and have experiences that otherwise may not be an option for them in their everyday lives.

Setting up for success

Each camper is paired with a volunteer assistant for the week. However the camp is specifically designed to allow each camper to be as independent as possible with assistance from their volunteer only when asked.  This aides the survivors in testing their limits and capabilities in a safe environment with support when necessary and often helps facilitate gaining new skills or regaining old ones.

Since a TBI often affects executive functioning, tasks like initiation and planning can be challenging.  To support these needs, the camp displays a large calendar, showing all the daily and weekly activities. As it is always visible, campers can refer to it whenever necessary to decide upon or remember their next activity.

Some of the camp activities include fishing, canoeing, a climbing wall, zip lining, boating, biking, and a ropes course.  All of the activities are adapted to the needs of each camper, so they are able to participate to the best of their abilities.  Our son particularly enjoyed the ropes course. Although he said it was the most difficult activity he tried, he wanted to challenge himself.  He also has always enjoyed fishing, so to be able to participate in that at camp with all his friends was another of his favorites.

Speaking of the camp activities, each camper participates in whichever activities are of interest to them.  This allows them to make most of their own choices throughout the week, something which has been taken away from them in many cases. Although there is a structure in place, it exists without making the survivors feel as though they are coddled or treated as not capable.

By the end of the week, it was evident that the higher functioning survivors enjoyed helping their fellow campers when needed.  They worked together as a community, using whatever skills, gifts, and talents they brought to the team. One major benefit to this was they no longer had time to focus on themselves and their shortcomings.  It also opened their world to see others experiencing the same challenges.

Like all summer camps, this one did come to an end.  And, like many campers, these TBI survivors long to return.  They think about the independence they gained, the community they formed, and the fun they experienced and would love for it to happen again.

And what if it could happen again? Not just for one week each summer, but forever?

Creating the Villa Licci residence will give these adults living with TBIs a lifetime feeling of being at camp. Daily they’ll be creating community with those who are living the same experiences.  They’ll have more opportunities to help and support one another.  And they’ll be there encouraging each other to be more independent and live their best lives every day.

Will you help to make this dream a reality?

As you are preparing for the gift-giving season, or just for reference for future ideas, we have compiled a list of gift-giving ideas for the TBI survivor in your life.

Help with transportation

Since many TBI survivors cannot drive themselves, providing a way for them to get from place to place is very much appreciated.  This can be in the form of gift cards for Uber/other ride services. Or just offer to give a ride yourself.  This also provides a survivor with the gift of your time and presence.

Assistance with an outing

Along with general transportation is helping a survivor go out in the community.  This is not only fun but provides social interaction.  Think about what your friend or family member likes to do and craft an outing around that.  For some it could be as simple as a trip to the mall to wander around and window-shop or people-watch.  Another might like a sporting event or a concert.  A picnic somewhere outside, or a trip to a favorite restaurant is another idea. Maybe an outing for a mani-pedi would be enjoyable.  When in doubt, ask the survivor in your life what they would like to do!

Meals, snacks, and treats

Especially for someone living on their own, assistance with meals can be helpful and fun.  Gift cards to meal delivery services or a subscription to a meal kit service might be appreciated by someone who would rather cook and/or eat at home. A gift card to a restaurant, especially if transportation and company are included, might be better for someone who wants to go out.  Perhaps even stocking their pantry with favorite snacks, especially ones that are harder to find, or bringing over homemade treats for them to enjoy would be other options.

A phone call letting them know they aren’t alone

TBI survivors often feel disconnected from others.  This can be exacerbated during the holidays.  Something as simple as a phone call shows they are not alone and you are thinking of them.

Including them in your holiday festivities

While parties and gatherings aren’t for everyone, and the survivor in your life may not want to participate, knowing that their presence is wanted is a gift in and of itself.  Extending that invitation to a family party or a gathering of friends and then helping the survivor to feel comfortable there can seem simple but is no small gesture.  Making sure the venue is accessible for their physical disabilities, providing transportation to and from, ensuring there are foods available the survivor likes, allowing them to leave when they get tired and helping them get home safely.  These are all little gestures that can provide a big gift!

No matter what you decide to do, if a gift is given thoughtfully and with love, it is always appreciated.  But remember, the greatest gift is of time and presence, so keep that in mind when you are thinking of gifts for the loved ones in your life!

A concussion is sometimes thought of as a mild traumatic brain injury.  However, the effects are often serious and long-lasting.  When the symptoms continue longer than expected after an injury, this is known as “Post Concussion Syndrome.”

Any bump, blow, or jolt to the head can cause a concussion.  In addition, a hit to the body that causes the head and brain to move back and forth quickly can also cause a concussion. All of these situations can cause the brain to move inside the skull. This may result in injuries to the brain.

Symptoms of concussion include headaches, memory loss, loss of consciousness, difficulty thinking or concentration, nausea, blurry vision, sleep changes, and more.  When these symptoms last longer than a few weeks, a person may be diagnosed with Post Concussion Syndrome (PCS).

Researchers estimate that up to 30% of those who endure a concussion will also develop Post Concussion Syndrome. Those with PCS may have difficulty returning to normal activities or may have to make lifestyle changes to cope with their injuries. Treatment for PCS varies based upon the symptoms that occur.  For example, medicines may be used to treat headaches, rest may be prescribed for fatigue, and therapy may be recommended for depression and anxiety.  The most important treatments are time and patience.

Post Concussion Syndrome doesn’t usually last forever, but the long-term effects can be frustrating.  During the recovery period, it is also important to avoid further damage or re-injury, and to allow the brain time to fully heal. The brain is particularly sensitive to further damage during this recovery period.

When someone experiences a brain injury, many areas of their life can be affected.  One question that often comes up is how to explain the injury and the resulting disabilities to those around them.

Before that can be done, it is important to understand what a traumatic brain injury is. A traumatic brain injury (TBI) is basically an injury that affects how the brain works.  It is known as an acquired brain injury because it is caused by events that occur after birth, not something one is born with.

Trauma can occur from a blow to the head, falling and hitting one’s head, a loss of oxygen to the brain due to drowning, a loss of blood to the brain as in a stroke, or any other event that causes damage to the brain tissue.

Sometimes, full healing occurs, and a person recovers completely from their TBI.  Some others suffer from what is known as post-concussion syndrome for months.  And still others suffer irreversible damage that cause long-term, chronic, and or severe disabilities.

Disabilities from a brain injury can be categorized into 3 groups.

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Physical

• Headache
• Nausea
• Fatigue
• Speech problems
• Dizziness or loss of balance
• Sensory issues
• Hearing/vision issues
• Muscle weakness

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Cognitive

• Memory issues/loss
• Problems concentrating
• Trouble communicating
• Learning difficulties

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Emotional/Behavioral

• Mood changes/swings
• Depression
• Anxiety
• Agitation or combativeness
• Impulsivity
• Trouble controlling behavior

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Some of these disabilities are more visible than others, which is why being able to explain the disabilities can be key to further understanding.  It can also help those suffering from the long-term chronic effects of a TBI to receive the resources they need to live a healthy productive life.

When explaining a brain injury disability to someone, it is important to recognize who you are talking to.  To a child, the explanation may be very simple: “Grandpa had a stroke, so his brain is hurt, like when you fell and broke your arm.  It’s going to take him a while to feel better, but we still love him and he still loves us, even if his brain makes him act different.”

To others, they may want to know more details, especially if they are very close to the person and want to know how to help.

If applying for government aid or assistance – or for various programs that assist TBI survivors, you can be more detailed and specific.  More details are even better in these situations so that a person can receive the best help customized for their specific needs.  And if a person isn’t able to communicate for themselves, it is important they have someone who understands the situation to advocate on their behalf.

The most important thing to remember when explaining a brain injury disability is that the person is still the person they were before the injury.  They are still someone’s child, parent, friend, colleague, neighbor.  They are more than just the effects of their injury.